How do You deal with a Personality which is of a Mean Type?

So how do you address a behavior that you dislike? Here are three steps :

1. Focus on the things that bother you. Try not to focus on why the person is behaving a certain way. If you do not know the person, you will make assumptions. You may categorize them and put labels on them. You may decide they are just evil. All of these assumptions and opinions and labels could be totally wrong. Instead, focus on behaviors. If the person has a tendency to interrupt you while you are speaking, then address that problem. If the person has a tendency to walk off during a conversation, address it.

2. Be honest and direct. Do not beat around the bush when telling a strong personality type you have a problem with their behavior. You will annoy them if you do. Tell them you have a problem with this or that. I have found in dealing with strong personality types that they appreciate when others are direct and truthful. So be strong. Be honest and be truthful. However, do so with care and love in your heart and not out of anger.

3. Do not ask a bunch of questions. You never want another person to feel as if they are in an inquisition. When you begin asking questions about a person's behavior, (e.g. do you know how it makes others feel when you do this or that?), you are perceived as lecturing them. You are setting yourself on a moral high ground, looking down on them. Make statements such as, "I know you have a strong personality and you get things done around here. I want to address something I observed in you that is making others, including myself; uncomfortable..."These three steps are enough to help you effectively confront a person with a strong personality at work, home or in your organization.